To all the adult males who are stepping into their manhood, it’s time to leave ‘sex’ behind. Sex is a physical manifestation of disempowerment, in which we glorify enslavement, and I mean that literally. Do you know those fuzzy handcuffs your girlfriend got you are to phase lock her in a state of helplessness? And you find that sexy.
You use whips and vibrators and candle wax to intensify your experiences; all it does is PACIFY them. TRUE pleasure is derived from the heart space, and that cannot be touched with the hands of lust.
Drop your weapons, and disarm yourself.
You are not here to conquer your partner but to witness her in all the glory that she is.
How can you admire the holy grail while stripping her of her power?
Sit within your own sacred temple, and bring focus to where your energy travels in the body. You have the power to move it where you please.
You do not need to focus on her pleasure. Focus on yourself and step into the present so that you can be a safe container for her surrender.
To witness exaltation is a greater burst of endorphins than any flat moan or painful beckon. A readied woman is not interested in being raptured with perversions but in the vibration of admiration and trust.
Intimacy is sacred.
Intimacy is fostered and maintained with emotional connection.
Intimacy is a safe container for both people to unravel of their own free will.
When your libido fills and entrances you, touch your woman and remember she is someone’s daughter.
When you feel you cannot contain yourself, consider the women who have been raped and preyed on despite their objections.
There is no consensual way to have aggressive or lustful sex. It is, by definition, meant for one person to hold power over the other.
Intimacy is not fast or hard.
It’s slow and patient. It creates space for build-up, connection, for the summoning of the cosmos.
Intimacy has no focus on the outcome. It is not worried about where it’ll lead.
Forget your orgasms – because only when you relieve yourself of such responsibilities will the climactic moments that shatter your distortions of pleasure come forward.
Take your time. Watch her undress. Don’t look straight at her sexual parts, but start with her eyes. Soak in every inch of her, and observe her in her vulnerability… What does she need from you in order to feel safe while she takes off her clothes? It is not eyes hunger. Hold her hand in awe that she dare reveal to you her softness, her power.
Stand back and undress yourself because she wants to honor you too.
Release yourself from the shackles of objectification because, yes, even when it is asked from your partner, it is her wounded self expecting abuse. We are so asleep we are not even conscious of our own demands for degradation.
Stand up, and decide to no longer adhere to the conditionings thrust upon you – and if your partner has never experienced this, be the first man to show her what true safety is like.